Decade of lessons

I recently turned 22. A responsible age so to say.  This has made me think of how much life has changed or even hasn’t changed in the past 10 years. It’s made me think of what lessons I’ve learned, which ones I wished I learned a little earlier and which ones I wish someone told me about. For that reason, I would like to take a minute to write a letter to my 12-year old self.

My dear twelve-year-old self,

When I think of you, I want to weep because I remember you as a timid little sparrow that tried to look like an eagle. You proved to be neither… A phoenix. That’s what you were. Burning and recreating yourself. Like a curse and like a blessing.

In a year’s time you will be 13. It is okay if it doesn’t seem like you have found your clique of friends yet.  Your best friendships are yet to come.  You will have great friends in life.  Friends that know exactly what cartoon video to put on to make you feel better, friends that you will stay up all night with for no reason at all except that the conversation never stops.  Friends that encourage you to follow your passion and friends that encourage you to leave your comfort zone, but are protective enough to say, ‘make good choices’ before you embark on a new adventure. When you turn 19 your best friend will cease to live. Life will seem unfair and unjust.  It’s going to suck more than anything you’ve ever been through, and luckily, you will have Mom by your side to support you. Slowly you will understand how life works in very odd, very bittersweet ways.

You will discover that school and grades are not everything.  Yes, you will have a fluke genius moment and get 100% on your maths exam when you were sure that you had no idea what you were doing.  (It was short-lived and lasted only for that one exam).  It is not so much what you are learning, but the work ethic that you learn from your dedication to school and extra curricular activities that keeps you moving forward and, ultimately allows you to enjoy life to its fullest.

At 15 you will meet a teacher who will slowly turn into a mentor and a guide. Don’t let go of her, keep in touch. Let me warn you that you will lose contact with her over the years…but try and locate her later on, this will bring tremendous joy to both of you.

17 will be an important year as you will shift base to India. You will be amazed to see the difference in people. New surroundings will inspire you to take more risks and be more creative. You will be known for you high-pitched voice and weird choices. Don’t stress yourself over these petty things. There will be times when your wish you never had come back but its alright, these years will help mould you into a stronger self.

Don’t worry.  You will end up doing so much more than you ever thought you would. Trust your instincts because they have proven to be trustworthy and make sure you take risks, because they always seem to put you in the right place at the right time.

At one point of time bhaiya will introduce you to Jeffery Archer and country music. This shall be the start of a life-long love affair. You will turn out to be a big admirer of George Cloony and Meryl Streep even though you don’t know who they are right now. You will eventually turn out to be a big fan of Jagjit Singh even though you hate that kind of music now. In your late teens a social networking website facebook will take the world by storm and I am glad to inform you that you won’t turn out to be an addict. Guess what, Tendulkar is still around and we did win the world cup. Speaking of cricket Gillespie took retirement when you turned 16 but don’t worry you did not actually die of shock like you thought you would.

Oh and love :) You are picky, and you don’t waste your time on crushes.  You like who you like, and if you aren’t absolutely positive that you like him, it means that you don’t.   Unfortunately, you will experience heartbreak but you will also experience a love and companionship that still surprises you.  It’s supposed to be easy, and when you find the right person, it is.

Life is nothing but easy. You’ll be glad you sorted this out early. And even though I’ve never said this I love you and I am proud of all that you’ve done…

And yes you still love the colour orange and sunflowers…and you still don’t know why ! I guess somethings never change :)

– An older you…

PS – you still love this photo of yours…even if you don’t admit it…


Relatively Speaking

Family or “nuclear” family is the term used to describe the closest of your kin. Sometimes they may unexpectedly go off into fits of laughter or rage depending on the thing you said while passing around stuff at the dining table and this quality is what makes them…ahem…them !

Tolstoy once said that all happy families are alike…that is mostly true as all families are usually 10 seconds away from either ripping each others heads off or laughing their asses off !

Remember the time when mom was mad at dad who was in turn sick of the children whining because they were not allowed to eat cake before lunch…this was what Sundays were mostly about ! This must have happened once at least in your childhood. See all families are the same – insane, crazy and super fun…

The word nuclear makes your family seem radio active and atomic…like all countries around the world are trying to get their hands on…but you wouldn’t want that because however annoying or super annoying they may seem ( depending on the way you look at them ) you totally love them and would do anything for them :) Somewhere even you know Blood is thicker than annoying “

Families are great but that doesn’t mean that they don’t know how to push your buttons…they tend to have an overwhelming power over you…Mom needs you. Right now. and Boom you go from checking facebook to clearing the table in 5 minutes flat because mom was starting to get mad at you since you were not helping..I can hear her voice ringing in my ears now..”Ms Aakanksha Sharma will you just set the table BEFORE everyone gets here.”  See, moms have this magic power that makes you feel like you are 10 years old…forever ! This being said, she also knows which cup I like my milk in and how I once mentioned I needed an orange bed-sheet and within two weeks my bed had one :)

The holiday season just went and that meant a LOT of family time together…diwali ( and even thanksgiving ) does put up this front of spending time with family and the importance of togetherness but in reality all we want to do is to eat up those sweets and finish up the rituals so that we can run away to a friend’s place to burst crackers. Away from the family. Because all said and done we need a break. from the LOVE…

Don’t feel so bad…this is a phase that happens with everybody…I am sure our parents were like this too…It runs in the family !

And as far as spreading the love is concerned..well I am tuned into Modern Family till the next holiday season ;)

25 Things I Would Bring Back…

#IWishTheyWouldBringBack is presently trending on twitter…so I thought I would list down the things I wanted back…here goes –

  1. F.R.I.E.N.D.S – I couldn’t ever get enough of Ross
  2. The Beatles and The Box Tops
  3. Erich Segal – They don’t write decent love stories anymore…
  4. MJ
  5. The old MTV – I thought the M was for Music
  6. Drake and Josh
  7. The 80s movies –  John Hughes
  8. Verbal communication instead of social networking sites…
  9. Johnny Bravo
  10. My best friend
  11. Sabrina, The Teenage Witch
  12. John Travolta in his 20s :)
  13. Discretion – remember when people weren’t so stressed to be famous that they actually kept their business to themselves.
  14. Sunday morning cartoon shows
  15. Gentleman
  16. Ninja Turtles and Power Rangers
  17. Young Tom Riddle – sorry but he was attractive !
  18. Elementary PE games in school
  19. Buffy – we need someone to slay these vampires :P
  20. Cheap petrol
  21. Sidney Sheldon
  22. Elmo at McDonald’s
  23. The old Kinder chocolates
  24. My childhood – the days filled with Ronald Dahl and Enid Blanton
  25. The 90s :)

Board To Death !

I was very into board games when I was little…for that matter I still am ! That used to happen to the kids of my age as most of us were not very good at sports, we were not allowed to watch TV after school ( and even if we were allowed to, the time was restricted being 1 or 2 hours at the most ) and most of us were quite bossy that our friends refused to play cricket because you always got to bat (hey, it was my house, right?!)…so board games were pretty much all we had left…and boy did I have a lot of them…

But the kids today are different..they have computers, interactive websites, android tablets, youtube, flashy toys…also kids now don’t go out in the evenings to play so they have less or minimal outdoor activity. I was prompted to write this post because my niece who is 2 years old will probably never get the joy of board games…she might be too busy with her wii or laptop games or videos…

I wanted to recall the hours and hours of fun I had playing with my board games…so here’s an account of all my favorites, there were, of course, classics but some of my favorites were a little less, well, timeless.

Guess Who – not only did this game had an awesome commercial but it was loads of fun :) The objective of this game was that you had to choose a character and answer questions about him while trying to prevent your opponent from guessing who you were. Playing with parents led to creative questions “Does this person look like he could murder his entire family ?”

Cluedo – The object of this basic game was for players to strategically move around the game board (a mansion), in the guise of one of the game’s six characters, collecting clues from which to deduce which suspect murdered the game’s perpetual victim: Dr. Black , and with which weapon and in what room. At a time 6 players played and that was what turned this game into absolute fun !
Chinese Checkerswell this was my favorite to play with mom…the trill of getting your checkers across was amazing and it made up for a good travel game too :)
Don’t Wake Daddy –  well this one was about breaking rules so it had a special appeal to it :) players were children sneaking to the refrigerator late at night, trying not to wake their sleeping father (who lies in the middle of the board on a large bed)…movement was determined by using a spinner and moving accordingly…if players made one of the several “noises” then “Daddy” would suddenly jerk upright from his bed at which point the player lost…this game was fun with cousins and we usually played at bedtime ! It also had an amazing commercial.
Monopoly – This will probably always remain as my most preferred board game. It was and still is an important family game for us ! When we were young all of us would gather together to play this…the joy of buying places such as Mayfair and Marven Gardens cannot be compensated.
The Game Of LIFE – Was a similar game and had a funny TV advertisement…. “Why didn’t I buy insurance”
Scrabble, Operation and Hungry Hungry Hippos ( the first one to gobble up all the marbles wins ! ) were other important games from my childhood. I hope my niece gets to atleast some of these…plays them and relishes the feeling of playing together with family…I miss watching board commercials on the television, I miss getting up earlier on sunday mornings and watching cartoons…

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